Part 3: So I’m going to have an OUTCAN baby
Pregnancy sure has its ups and downs with most of them emotional, especially when your family is a few thousand miles away. Dealing with the entire US medical system and insurance can also make a pregnant woman crazy!
I sure missed my family while I was pregnant, and I was over the moon happy to have my mom arrive in April. She arrived April 21st and on April 25, 2012 at 1:12 p.m. my little American boy was born!
WOW have I ever been blessed to have my mom here to help. The day before I went in for my c-section, my two-year-old wound up with a severe ear infection and my mom and I spent most of the day taking him to and from appointments, specialists, and the pharmacy...which, coincidently, put me into active labour (though I still thought it was good ol’ Braxton Hicks, oops!) So my poor mother had to setup a schedule to ensure he received the four different medications at varying times for the next few days while
I was in the hospital – quite the welcome hey?
And then I came home from the hospital. Big brother LOVED little brother. BUT big brother was mad at mommy and boy did he ever start acting out. He was mad at the world, mad at Mommy, mad at Daddy, and mad at his Mimi (what he calls my mom). So much change for a little boy used to having his Mommy all to himself and now I couldn’t do much with him – I couldn’t lift him, hold him in my lap, dance with him – and he let us know how mad he was every chance he could. I would have been lost without my mom. She changed diapers, made meals, walked my dogs, and even stayed with me the first few nights so my husband could sleep for work.
I know I have been really lucky to have my mom here, and there are others who haven’t been so lucky on their OUTCAN postings. I don’t know how they did it, I really don’t. The emotional toll alone is ridiculously taxing (oh the ugly cries), then throw in the physical recuperation…those are some super women! I know if my mom couldn’t have been here, the wonderful ladies I’ve met here would have done everything they could to help. It is so important to develop a support system on our postings, especially for emotional support.
She’s going to leave in a week, and though my mother-in-law will be here to help, I will miss my mom terribly. There will be a few more ugly cries, a few “poor me” moments, but this is the life we signed up for with an OUTCAN posting…so we can have our bad days and our sad days missing friends and family, but in the end we just have to pick ourselves up and enjoy the many wonderful things and people around us and be thankful for FaceTime and Skype!